Never underestimate the power of rejection.
Rejection will initially hit you like a ton of bricks.
Crush your self-esteem and ego.
But only for a moment if you allow it, you can find that rejection can free you from what the universe may have been telling you all along was not the appropriate path for you. Sometimes, our hearts and minds lead us in directions haphazardly. It’s when we hit a stone wall that we become self-aware and can stand in our truth. To be honest with ourselves, we will have heartache over what we envisioned but reality will keep us grounded. Only allowing us to relish such unrealistic thoughts until we have overstepped the excitement of thinking to the actual doing. Sometimes, these fantastic thoughts can propel us in directions we never imagined. So, they definitely have their place in our lives, just not a permanent one. Once we stand back and view it for what it truly is…an educational mind-expanding experience….will we be able to approach the next challenge that eagerly awaits our arrival.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles
by Marianne Williamson
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Happiness May Be Just a Tight Squeeze Away: The Link Between Mood and Touch
By Jessica Cassity
You know that warm and fuzzy feeling you get while hugging someone you really like? Well, part of that sensation comes from feeling cared for—affection is a usually clear sign someone wants you nearby. But much of the happiness-boosting power of a hug, a pat on the back, and even a squeeze of the hand is actually physiological, not psychological.
How Your Brain Reacts to Touch
“A number of studies show that when people touch you, your brain produces oxytocin,” says Paul Zak, PhD, director of the Center for Neuroeconomics Studies at Claremont Graduate University and a self-proclaimed “hugger”. Oxytocin is that powerful brain chemical associated with bonding and relationships, characteristics that that have earned it nicknames including “the love hormone”, “the trust hormone”, and “the happy hormone”.
But the amazing powers of touch actually start at that first moment of contact.
When you hug, cuddle, or hold hands, the physical pressure stimulates touch receptors, tiny nerves embedded in your skin all over your body. A biological chain reaction is triggered when these touch receptors are activated, sending signals from the skin to the brain’s reward center. As these signals are interpreted, the brain releases oxytocin, producing a feel-good flow of chemicals. It sounds complicated—and it is—but this process happens almost instantly, thus the immediate boost in happiness and feeling of connection with touch.
It Doesn’t Need to Come from a Loved One for You to Feel the Effects
Hugs and kisses are two surefire ways to get oxytocin flowing, and one reason physical affection is often an important part of close relationships. But the mood boost from physical contact doesn’t happen only after touching a close friend or loved one: “All kinds of touch produce this sensation,” says Matt Hertenstein, associate professor of psychology at DePaul University and head of the school’s Touch and Emotion Lab.
Shaking hands with a stranger, giving a high-five to a teammate, or getting a hands-on adjustment from a yoga instructor can all result in this feel-good effect. And, as most people already know, so can massage, says Hertenstein. Even 10 minutes with a massage therapist (or a generous friend) will light up your brain’s reward center, get the oxytocin flowing, and have a big effect on your mood, not to mention help relieve aches and pains. Most scientists think that even self-massage—like rubbing your own feet—can trigger these sensations.
Why Touch Also Lowers Stress Levels
While these various types of touch are sending your happiness levels soaring, they’re doing another equally important thing, according to Tiffany Field, PhD, founder of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine: “Touch lowers the production of the stress hormone cortisol”. You know how a big hug from a good friend can miraculously help your worries disappear? Science says this actually happens! The mechanism that causes this is still somewhat unclear, but Field believes it has something to do with the way touch typically slows the heart rate, shutting off some fight or flight instincts.
Get the Benefits
It may be cheesy to say “reach out and touch someone” but that truly is one of the easiest ways to trigger this positive chain reaction. If you’re in a romantic relationship you can probably come up with a number of ways to meet this goal. But there are countless ways to get the same sort of effect from interactions with friends, family members, acquaintances, strangers, and even yourself.
• Have kids? During story time rub your child’s back. You’ll both benefit from extra touch.
• Regularly see friends or acquaintances? Become a hugger. Seriously: Paul Zak says he’s hugged thousands of people and he’s all the better for it.
• Like fitness? Sign up for a partner yoga class, a team sport, or an obstacle event like a mud run. Each has numerous built-in opportunities for connection.
• Want to volunteer? Altruism is of course good for happiness, but charity work that involves teamwork—like manual labor—likely has built in hugs and high-fives too.
• Squeamish about reaching out? Take matters into your own hands by learning a few acupressure techniques, giving your feet or hands a self-massage, or by lying on a tennis ball to roll out the kinks in your shoulders. Per Field, even skin brushing before a shower can help activate your touch receptors, so seek opportunities to put a little pressure on your skin whenever you can.
Your body and mind will thank you!
There are 7 main energy centers in the body, known as chakras. Each chakra is located throughout our body so that it correlates to specific body ailment and physical dysfunctions; each energy center also houses our mental and emotional strengths. When we have a physical issue, it creates weaknesses in our emotional behavior. When we release the stale energy from the body, it can undo any tightness, stiffness, or malfunction of that area.
The clearing of the energy can also balance our emotional state of mind. The Chakra Mind-Body Balance is a two-way street: if there are certain fears and emotions we are holding on to, we experience physical restrictions, too.
If you have achiness or stiffness, or certain reoccurring emotions and fears, read along and you may find out which chakra is affected or blocked.
1st or Root Chakra
*Sits at the base of your spine, at your tailbone.
Physical imbalances in the root chakra include problems in the legs, feet, rectum, tailbone, immune system, male reproductive parts and prostrate gland. Those with imbalances here are also likely to experience issues of degenerative arthritis, knee pain, sciatica, eating disorders, and constipation.
Emotional imbalances include feelings affecting our basic survival needs: money, shelter and food; ability to provide for life’s necessities.
When this chakra is balance, you feel supported, a sense of connection and safety to the physical world, and grounded.
The lesson of this chakra is self-preservation; we have a right to be here.
2nd or Sacral Chakra
*Located two inches below your navel.
Physical imbalances include sexual and reproductive issues, urinary problems, kidney dysfunctions, hip, pelvic and low back pain.
Emotional imbalances include our commitment to relationships. Our ability to express our emotions. Our ability to have fun, play based on desires, creativity, pleasure, sexuality. Fears of impotence, betrayal, addictions.
When this chakra is balanced, we have an ability to take risks, we are creative, we are committed. We are passionate, sexual and outgoing.
The lesson of this chakra is to honor others.
3rd or Solar Plexus Chakra
*Located three inches above your navel.
Physical imbalances include digestive problems, liver dysfunction, chronic fatigue, high blood pressure, diabetes, stomach ulcers, pancreas and gallbladder issues, colon diseases.
Emotional imbalances include issues of personal power and self-esteem, our inner critic comes out. Fears of rejection, criticism, physical appearances.
When this chakra is balanced, we feel self-respect and self-compassion. We feel in control, assertive, confident.
The lesson of this chakra is self-acceptance.
4th or Heart Chakra
*Located at the heart.
Physical imbalances include asthma, heart disease, lung disease, issues with breasts, lymphatic systems, upper back and shoulder problems, arm and wrist pain.
Emotional imbalances include issues of the heart; over-loving to the point of suffocation, jealousy, abandonment, anger, bitterness. Fear of loneliness.
When this chakra is balanced we feel joy, gratitude, love and compassion, forgiveness flows freely, trust is gained.
The lesson of this chakra is I Love.
5th or Throat Chakra
*Located at the throat.
Physical imbalances include thyroid issues, sore throats, laryngitis, TMJ, ear infections, ulcers, any facial problems (chin, cheek, lips, tongue problems) neck and shoulder pain.
Emotional imbalances include issues of self-expression through communication, both spoken or written. Fear of no power or choice. No willpower or being out of control.
When this chakra is balanced, we have free flowing of words, expression, communication. We are honest and truthful yet firm. We are good listeners.
The lesson of this chakra is to speak up and let your voice be heard.
6th or Third Eye Chakra
*Located in the middle of the eyebrows, in the center of the forehead.
Physical imbalances include headaches, blurred vision, sinus issues, eyestrain, seizures, hearing loss, hormone function.
Emotional imbalances include issues with moodiness, volatility, and self-reflection; An inability to look at ones own fears, and to learn from others. Day-dream often and live in a world with exaggerated imagination.
When this chakra is balanced we feel clear, focused, and can determine between truth and illusion. We are open to receiving wisdom and insight.
The lesson of this chakra is to see the big picture.
7th or Crown Chakra
*Located at the top of the head.
Physical imbalance include depression, inability to learn, sensitivity to light, sound, environment.
Emotional imbalances include issues with self-knowledge and greater power. Imbalances arise from rigid thoughts on religion and spirituality, constant confusion, carry prejudices, “analysis paralysis.” Fear of alienation.
When this chakra is balanced, we live in the present moment. We have an unshakeable trust in our inner guidance.
The lesson of this chakra is live mindfully.
Often, you may feel that more than one chakra is blocked as a result of other chakras compensating for the imbalance and either become over active or under active. To start balancing your chakras it is best to begin at the root chakra and work your way up to the crown chakra.
Adapted from MindBodyGreen
BY RESHMA PATEL
APRIL 21, 2014 5:32 AM EDT
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com
How To Work Miracles Into Everyday Life
BY GABRIELLE BERNSTEIN
APRIL 10, 2014 6:33 AM EDT
As a spiritual student, I believe that we sign an invisible oath to be a teacher in some way. As we expand our inner awareness and bear witness to our lives as they blossom, we likely sense the desire to spread the love. When we share our spiritual gifts, they grow. A Course in Miracles says, “To teach is to learn.”
As a teacher of the Course, I can testify to this truth. I have witnessed my spiritual awareness and faith grow immensely from my commitment to being a teacher. Early in my Course studies, I read about how the students show up when the teacher is ready.
This was the case for me. As soon as I made the commitment to share the information I was learning, my students began appearing. They showed up as mentees, family members, and, in my case, audience members, as I began to share the messages through lectures and videos. When you’re on a spiritual path, teaching comes naturally.
You don’t need to figure out who to teach or where to go. Rather, you remain a humble student with the willingness to share the beautiful gifts you’ve been given.
At points in my spiritual journey when I decided to learn more, I was guided to teach more. For instance, before I found Kundalini yoga and meditation, I felt a strong call to heighten my own practice.
Though I’d been a spiritual teacher for seven years, I was seeking a more visceral experience of spirit. I prayed to know more.
Quickly my prayers were answered when I was invited to a private Kundalini class hosted by a dear friend. I didn’t even like yoga, but there was a voice within me saying, Get your ass into that class.
From the moment I met my teacher, Gurmukh, and experienced the technology of Kundalini, I knew I was not only meant to be a dedicated student, but I was meant to be a teacher. With one month of Kundalini classes under my belt, I started saying out loud (to everyone, including my lecture audiences) that I was going to become a Kundalini teacher.
I had no idea where this proclamation was coming from. Spirit was speaking through me, holding me accountable as I stated my commitment to thousands of people in lecture halls and the Twittersphere. I was being called to teach.Then, one afternoon in Kundalini class, I kept hearing my inner voice say, It’s time to teach, it’s time to teach.
Immediately following the class, I thanked the teacher. She looked at me and said, “Gabrielle, I’m familiar with your work. I think you should teach Kundalini.”
I smiled and accepted the Universal memo. Twenty-four hours later, I signed up for 270 hours of Kundalini yoga and meditation teacher training.
Becoming a spiritual teacher isn’t our choice. It’s an unconscious commitment we make with the Universe. It’s not something that we do; it’s something that hap- pens to us. We can all teach in our own unique ways. You don’t need to be a self-help book author and motivational speaker to be a spiritual teacher. You just need to be a spiritual student with a desire to serve.
Yogi Bhajan said, “If you want to learn something, read about it. If you want to understand something, write about it. If you want to master something, teach it.”
You’ve made it this far and it’s likely you’re hearing your own call to teach. Don’t deny that inner voice. Don’t push it away with limiting beliefs like, I’m not ready for that teacher training, or Who am I to share these tools?
That’s all a bunch of crap. When you make the decision to share your gifts, spirit will give you all that you need to facilitate the process.The world desperately needs more light. When you are called to share the spiritual awareness you now have, don’t hesitate to speak up. Be the lighthouse. In your light, others will become illuminated.
A Course in Miracles teaches us, “A miracle is a service. It is the maximal service you can render to another. It is a way of loving your neighbor as yourself. You recognize your own and your neighbor’s worth simultaneously.”
We need more miracle workers to balance the energy of these times. We need you.
Excerpted with permission from the publisher. To embark on the journey of becoming a Miracle Worker in your own life, pick up a copy of Gabrielle’s new book, Miracles Now, 108 Life-changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow and Finding your True Purpose.
About the Author
Gabrielle Bernstein is a New York Times bestselling author speaker and Kundalini meditation teacher. Her newest book Miracles Now launches in April.
“Do not be impatient with your seemingly slow progress.
Do not try to run faster than you presently can. If you are studying, reflecting and trying, you are making progress whether you are aware of it or not.
A traveler walking the road in the darkness of night is still going forward.
Someday, some way, everything will… break open, like the natural unfolding of a rosebud.”
– Vernon Howard
Yield: 1 serving diffused mental anguish
1 cup patience
½ cup interpersonal knowledge
2 lbs space
1 lb kindness
2 tbsp awareness
1 tsp reality
zen to taste
Begin by lining pan with a baseline of reality. All you know for a fact is that she’s mad about something, and she’s not talking about it.
Dump space in mixing bowl and set to churn. Fold in patience and slow mixer to lowest setting. She’s telling you with her actions that she needs distance. As frustrating as it is that she won’t just tell you what’s going on, respect the warning signs and take a step back.
In a separate bowl, melt awareness until soft. How much of her reaction is about you and how much of it is about the fact that you’re making everything about you when she just wants to be left alone?
Add in interpersonal knowledge and whisk until blended to the consistency of perspective. Feed perspective into larger mixing bowl and blend. What else is going on in her life that could be causing her stress?
Pour batter in pan and sprinkle zen on top. Bake until mixture has risen. The truth is when you screw up, you know you screwed up. If you can’t think of what you did wrong, chances are it was nothing and you are caught in the crossfire of something outside your purview.
Allow cake sufficient time to cool off before attempting to remove from the pan. You’re not crazy — clearly something is bothering her. But it’s in both of your best interests to wait for her to come to you when she’s ready.
Frost with kindness. It’s when people act the worst that they are in the most need. Letting her know you’re there for her is the best thing you can do right now. The rest is up to her.
What “recipe” do you cook up when you’re having a problem in a relationship? Share in the comments below!
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