Never Under Estimate the Power of Rejection

   
 
Never underestimate the power of rejection. 
Rejection will initially hit you like a ton of bricks.
Crush your self-esteem and ego.
But only for a moment if you allow it, you can find that rejection can free you from what the universe may have been telling you all along was not the appropriate path for you. Sometimes, our hearts and minds lead us in directions haphazardly. It’s when we hit a stone wall that we become self-aware and can stand in our truth. To be honest with ourselves, we will have heartache over what we envisioned but reality will keep us grounded. Only allowing us to relish such unrealistic thoughts until we have overstepped the excitement of thinking to the actual doing. Sometimes, these fantastic thoughts can propel us in directions we never imagined. So, they definitely have their place in our lives, just not a permanent one. Once we stand back and view it for what it truly is…an educational mind-expanding experience….will we be able to approach the next challenge that eagerly awaits our arrival. 

Our Deepest Fear

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Excerpt from
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles
by Marianne Williamson

How to Deal When People Are Driving You Nuts

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BY Ally Hamilton
JANUARY 22, 2014 4:40 AM EST

If you’ve ever done “Navasana” (boat pose) in a yoga class, it’s possible the teacher told you to focus on the space between your toes. The idea is to train your mind to observe the space between all things.

The pause between the inhale and the exhale. The space between your thoughts, once you train your mind to be present. The space between an event and your response to it. The space between you and another person, and the ability to choose what goes into that space. We don’t always learn to think about things in this way, but it can be a real life-changer.

A couple of years ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who happens to be a Jungian therapist, and he said, “Well, y’know, no one can make you feel anything, unless you let them.”

And I started laughing. Because of course that’s true, but it really turns the “blame game” on its head, doesn’t it?

As the saying goes, A person can only drive you crazy if you give them the keys.

I want to be really clear. There are things in this life that can break your heart wide open. Events that would bring the strongest person to her knees.

And at times like those, you don’t have to think about the space between things, or where you’re leaving your keys, or anything else. You just focus on breathing in and breathing out, and you piece together how to survive.

I’m not talking about times like those. I’m talking about the day-to-day issues that can ruin your afternoon if you let them, or not so much.

If someone says something thoughtless or hurtful, you don’t have to allow it to absorb hours of your time. Maybe they’re having a tough day. Maybe they cried themselves to sleep in their pillow last night. Maybe their kid was vomiting until all hours of the morning and they didn’t get any sleep. Maybe someone they love is dying and they feel helpless in the face of that.

We really don’t know what’s happening with someone else unless they tell us. We don’t have to take it all on, and we don’t have to take it all personally.

When you create a little space between an event and how you respond to it, you put yourself in the power seat. I’m not talking about power over anyone else, I’m talking about maintaining your center. Being stuck in traffic when you’re trying to get somewhere is never fun, but you don’t have to allow it to raise your blood pressure.

You don’t have to tell yourself a story about how you always get screwed, or the universe is conspiring against you, or you never get any breaks. You don’t have to carry that anger into the rest of your day. You don’t even have to get angry.

If you’re having a tough time with your partner or your child or your parent, you could start to think about the space between you and them. You could decide you won’t pollute that space with your rage or resentment or frustration. You could fill that space with your love, concern, patience and understanding.

But you can only make those choices if you learn how to create that space, right?

A reaction comes out of our past. Something within us gets triggered, probably something very old, raw and unhealed, and we react as if we’re being attacked. Because something in the current interaction is echoing something that hurt us long ago. So we drag our past into our present and then it’s really hard to figure out what’s happening.

Are you really this upset with the person who cut you off on the freeway, or is this experience tapping some old pain around feeling disrespected? Ignored? Unseen or unheard? Is it the other driver, a complete stranger, who’s made you feel invisible, or is it something else, someone else?

The physical part of the yoga practice was designed to prepare the body and the mind for seated meditation. If you’ve been wanting to try yoga, I stream online yoga classes all over the world.

When we sit and meditate, we have this enormous and beautiful opportunity to know ourselves. Feelings come up and we witness them. We don’t try to fix them or change them, we just watch them arise and peak, and subside. No feeling is forever. And feelings are not facts.

You don’t have to believe everything you think, as the saying goes. We just sit and take a compassionate look at the world within us. At the quality of the relationship we’re having with ourselves, with others, with our own environment. We realize we are not our thoughts, which is huge, because so much of our suffering stems from the way we’re thinking about things.

And we can take that practice into our lives. When someone says something that hurts, we can pause and breathe and notice where we’re feeling that pain. We can observe our jaw clenching, or our shoulders tightening. And after awhile, we can even communicate while we’re doing that. “That really hurt. I don’t know if I’m misunderstanding you, but this is how I’m feeling right now.”

Here’s the other thing. When we’re thinking, we aren’t feeling; we’re separating ourselves from the experience we could be having. And those experiences include the feelings of love, joy, peace and contentment.

Do the meek inherit the earth?

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“Some feel that fear is okay as a lifestyle because they’ve heard that the meek shall inherit the earth. So they can go on with being meek as a way of life. They become soft-spoken and compliant, never standing for themselves; always resigned to being a fluffy doormat. But scholars now say that in the scriptural texts that were translated from the Greek, the word praos doesn’t exactly mean “meek” as people have always thought. In fact, it is more accurate to say it means “disciplined.” A very big difference in those translations. It’s much more encouraging to now realize that the disciplined shall inherit the earth.”

~ Steve Chandler

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Merry Christmas!

Enjoy the day in a way which helps you to remain authentic to your beliefs and intentions which you shall carry over into the New Year!

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, – not even a mouse:
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St Nicholas soon would be there….
Clement Clarke MooreNot a creature was stirring, – not even a mouse:
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St Nicholas soon would be there….
-Clement Clarke Moore

Christmas is not as much about opening our presents as opening our hearts. ~Janice Maeditere

Christmas – that magic blanket that wraps itself about us, that something so intangible that it is like a fragrance. It may weave a spell of nostalgia. Christmas may be a day of feasting, or of prayer, but always it will be a day of remembrance – a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved. ~Augusta E. Rundel

Christmas is a day of meaning and traditions, a special day spent in the warm circle of family and friends. ~Margaret Thatcher

May the spirit of Christmas bring you peace,
The gladness of Christmas give you hope,
The warmth of Christmas grant you love. ~Author Unknown

I heard the bells on Christmas Day, The old, familiar carols play, And wild and sweet, The words repeat, Peace on Earth, Goodwill to men. ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


Accepting the loss of a life taken too soon

Lily of the Valley

                               

                                 To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die                                                                                                               

                                          Thomas Campbell “Hallowed Ground” 

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